Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Rest in peace sweet friend!

I was going to wait and post this tomorrow but I just can't. Tomorrow marks the 4 year anniversary of the death of my best friend/roommate in college. Her name was Jessica Leigh Romag and she was a beautiful person inside and out. She passed away in a car accident driving from San Luis Obispo where we lived to Moraga, CA. She died in Gonzalez, CA. People who have never had someone close to them die, think it is so weird and act so awkward around you if you speak about the deceased. They act as if you shouldn't speak of them because they are dead and it is over....but I don't want it to be over, and it is still so hard to let her go. Even though it has been 4 years, I feel like it was just yesterday. I get sad as my wedding approaches because I recall the conversations Jess and I had years ago, while walking Pismo Beach attempting to plan our futures as adults. She would have been a gorgeous bridesmaid and it kills me that she won't be there. She always said she was going to dance to Bob Carlisle's Butterfly Kisses at her wedding. Everytime she heard it, she would cry! I wish she could meet Aaron and tell me what she thinks about him...I miss our days of watching endless episodes of Sex and the City and Sopranos. I miss how she made me smile. She lightened up my life in so many ways. We were the perfect match....I have had an argument with everyother girl friend I have ever had....but not with her. It was sooo different. She crosses my mind each and everyday over random things. I always want to cry but I have to hold back the tears. I found myself home alone a few weeks ago balling as I sat there eating Tostitos chips and cheese was just OUR thing...I always want to watch the dvd from her funeral....Aaron says I just like to torture myself but thats not it...I like to see her......I like to remember her. Please pray that Jessica is at peace and pray that she knows how much I truly miss her! RIP JLR!! Here is her obituary so you can learn a little about her:
Aug. 23, 1983-July 17, 2004
Jessica Leigh Romag, 20, of Poway died Saturday. She was born in Englewood, Colo., and was a senior at California Polytechnic State University San Luis Obispo. She was a member of the Alpha Phi Sorority and was executive treasurer of the Panhellenic Board.
Survivors include her parents, Michael and Mary Romag of Poway; brothers, Matthew Romag, David Romag and Brian Romag, all of Poway; grandparents, Arnold Rayome of Port Edwards, Wis., and Paul and Doris Romag of Wisconsin Rapids, Wis.; and great-grandmothers, Marie Romag and Martha Kauth of Wisconsin Rapids, Wis.
Viewing: 5 to 8 p.m. today, with prayer service at 7 p.m., St. Gabriel's Catholic Church, 13734 Twin Peaks Road, Poway.
Mass: noon tomorrow at the church.
Interment: Dearborn Memorial Park, 14361 Tierra Bonita Road, Poway.
Donations: St. Gabriel's Building Fund, 13734 Twin Peaks Road, Poway, CA 92064; or contact the family.
Arrangements: California Funeral Alternatives.


Beverly said...

Brittany you are right on describing Jessica she was as beautiful on the inside as she was on the outside....I know you miss her but rest assured she is always with you, and will be watching from above as you & Aaron begin your lives together.. she will have that sweet, disbelief, nervous giggle watching you transform from Brittany to Bridezilla from the stress and preperation. (You know she never said anything bad she just giggled)Then she will be smiling watching you walk down the aisle with the gorgeous self assured smile you have,and Jessica will have tears because she too wishes she could be standing up there with you, instead of over you. Be thankful that you were fortunate enough to have had her in your life and remember her spirit is and always will be with you....

C & K said...

Hi Brit: I'm glad you are writing about your sweet friend. It's good to talk about the ones we love who have left this earth before us. It's healthy for us to remember!

I didn't know your friend, but you can be sure that you are not alone and that there are lots of us that love you and also understand what you are going through.

Stay strong!!! Be brave!!

CupKate's And Parties said...

I hope you don't mind me reading your blog as a stranger, but I googled Jessica Romag when I was missing her one day and your page came up. Jessica and I were childhood friends until I moved away when we were 12. We lost touch sometime after age 14 but I always considered her a close friend. It still doesn't seem possible that she's not here anymore. When I moved we promised each other that if we ever lost touch, we would make the effort to reconnect, no matter how long it had been. We also decided to dance to butterfly kisses with our Dad's at our weddings together. It made me so happy to read that she intended to follow through with our girlish plan. My Dad passed away two years before Jessica did, so that never happened for me. Obviously not for Jessica either. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I miss her too. Hope all is well with you as the years have passed since you wrote this post.